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	<title>Comments on: We Live in Public (and the end of empathy)</title>
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		<title>By: Matthew</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-14242</link>
		<dc:creator>Matthew</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Oct 2009 03:33:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Tonight I was going to see &quot;we live in public&quot; I participated in Quiet - because of my busy schedule I will have to wait for the DVD or another showing. As a participant Quiet was very disturbing, and there was a lack of empathy for the sake of the &quot;project&quot;. The one thing that links what you are saying to Quiet is empathy is losted when people invest everything in their persona without understanding or feeling or knowing their own deeper private lives.  what I found there was an avoidance of depth, which resulted in lack of empathy, and lack of soul. I am still very curious about the movie. Ironically during a shooting it was Ondi who set down the camera for a moment to empathize over what I was saying, I am curious what the resulting film reveals.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tonight I was going to see &#8220;we live in public&#8221; I participated in Quiet &#8211; because of my busy schedule I will have to wait for the DVD or another showing. As a participant Quiet was very disturbing, and there was a lack of empathy for the sake of the &#8220;project&#8221;. The one thing that links what you are saying to Quiet is empathy is losted when people invest everything in their persona without understanding or feeling or knowing their own deeper private lives.  what I found there was an avoidance of depth, which resulted in lack of empathy, and lack of soul. I am still very curious about the movie. Ironically during a shooting it was Ondi who set down the camera for a moment to empathize over what I was saying, I am curious what the resulting film reveals.</p>
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		<title>By: diane nilan</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-13882</link>
		<dc:creator>diane nilan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Oct 2009 22:41:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>To affirm Hobbes...catch Michael Moore&#039;s latest flick, 
Capitalism: a Love Story.

We&#039;ve complacently let this happen. It&#039;s going to be difficult
to get things under control. We have a lot to lose if we fail.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>To affirm Hobbes&#8230;catch Michael Moore&#8217;s latest flick,<br />
Capitalism: a Love Story.</p>
<p>We&#8217;ve complacently let this happen. It&#8217;s going to be difficult<br />
to get things under control. We have a lot to lose if we fail.</p>
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		<title>By: Hobbes</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-13508</link>
		<dc:creator>Hobbes</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Sep 2009 15:30:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Truer words were never spoken - cyberspace makes it too easy to objectify each other more than we already were doing IRL. We all know it&#039;s cruel and heartless to objectify each other, so why do any of us do that??

Because we&#039;re scared. Damm scared. We&#039;re terrified of being overlooked, ignored if we act &#039;&#039;nice&#039;&#039; because our society almost has us convinced that nice folk finish last. Really? They do? No, they quietly finish first. The jerks might have a splashier finish but they are not in the running and never really were. We know this, but we&#039;re too scared to remember this. Why are we so terrified of being objectified that we&#039;re now objectifying each other just as hard as we possibly can?

In the 1980s when all the damm fools started greedily, voraciously and narcissistically empire-building, merging company after company and laying off hundreds and thousands of people with ZERO compassion for any of the lives they were hurting, sometimes destroying... is that when we got scared, really scared. We saw that the rotten jerks were finishing first and everyone was being kicked to the curb. We got scared, and some of us broke, starting to act just like their aggressors. These broken people started turning on other people, broke them and pretty soon, everyone was fighting. They weren&#039;t fighting back against the jerk job killeers, but by turning on each other in video games. Wow, that really showed those egotistical power-mongering job killers, huh! No, it did not. 

After turning on each other long enough in those games, then everyone started turning on each other via brain-damaged &#039;&#039;reality tv&#039;&#039; shows. Yes, nearly all reality tv is brain-damaged – made by brain-damaged people for other brain-damaged people&#039;s &#039;&#039;entertainment&#039;&#039;. Get serious - who in their right minds thinks it&#039;s &#039;&#039;entertaining&#039;&#039; to annihilate another living being for &#039;&#039;sport&#039;&#039;? Didn&#039;t we grow up thinking that throwing people to the lions was disgusting back in old Rome? Or did some really disturbed people think that wasn&#039;t such a bad idea after all? :P

Think about it – we weren&#039;t standing up to Big Biz by turning on each other. No, we were hurting each other while the viscious power-mongering job kills LAUGH at us from their ritzy penthouses and vacation homes!!

Why don&#039;t we stop *playing into the hands of the bad guys here!!* How about we instead turn that fear and anger on the greedy pigs who caused our heartache in the first place?! Don&#039;t go do anything stupid. Do mourn all the pain and suffering those greedy pigs put us all through. Heal so they have no more power over us. Then...

Stop buying everything possible from any company that is *not* scrupulously ethical and honorable. Definitely stop shopping at evil WalMart which does NOT give a damm about any of us, only about every last dollar it can extract from us. Buy LOCAL from people you know. Buy organic so you don&#039;t support evil monsanto and the other massive agri-cons. 

If you really want to fight back against the greedy power-mongers who have been callously destabilizing American society for over 20 years now, the answer is simple. Don&#039;t support them at all. Don&#039;t ignorantly support them through their subsidiaries - Clorox bought Burt&#039;s Bees – only buy from Burt&#039;s Bees if you really love Clorox. Instead of continuing to blindly and stupidly turn on each other, how about we stop playing Big Biz&#039; games and instead start having as absolute little to do with them as we possibly can. 

What would be great is if we could contribute what we know about various companies to one reputable website. Liars would be permanently banned from that website. The rest of us could contribute what we know about every company so we can start putting our money into companies that are seriously cool. The &#039;&#039;bad&#039;&#039; companies would have to play by our rules if they wanted our money. Lol, if we got enough people on board, the &#039;&#039;bad&#039;&#039; companies might begin to settle down. 

I think teh internets could become a lot friendlier once we stop letting the nasty mega-corps have power over us. Whatdya think? Anyone else with me on this? ☺</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Truer words were never spoken &#8211; cyberspace makes it too easy to objectify each other more than we already were doing IRL. We all know it&#8217;s cruel and heartless to objectify each other, so why do any of us do that??</p>
<p>Because we&#8217;re scared. Damm scared. We&#8217;re terrified of being overlooked, ignored if we act &#8221;nice&#8221; because our society almost has us convinced that nice folk finish last. Really? They do? No, they quietly finish first. The jerks might have a splashier finish but they are not in the running and never really were. We know this, but we&#8217;re too scared to remember this. Why are we so terrified of being objectified that we&#8217;re now objectifying each other just as hard as we possibly can?</p>
<p>In the 1980s when all the damm fools started greedily, voraciously and narcissistically empire-building, merging company after company and laying off hundreds and thousands of people with ZERO compassion for any of the lives they were hurting, sometimes destroying&#8230; is that when we got scared, really scared. We saw that the rotten jerks were finishing first and everyone was being kicked to the curb. We got scared, and some of us broke, starting to act just like their aggressors. These broken people started turning on other people, broke them and pretty soon, everyone was fighting. They weren&#8217;t fighting back against the jerk job killeers, but by turning on each other in video games. Wow, that really showed those egotistical power-mongering job killers, huh! No, it did not. </p>
<p>After turning on each other long enough in those games, then everyone started turning on each other via brain-damaged &#8221;reality tv&#8221; shows. Yes, nearly all reality tv is brain-damaged – made by brain-damaged people for other brain-damaged people&#8217;s &#8221;entertainment&#8221;. Get serious &#8211; who in their right minds thinks it&#8217;s &#8221;entertaining&#8221; to annihilate another living being for &#8216;&#8217;sport&#8221;? Didn&#8217;t we grow up thinking that throwing people to the lions was disgusting back in old Rome? Or did some really disturbed people think that wasn&#8217;t such a bad idea after all? <img src='http://s.wordpress.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_razz.gif' alt=':P' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Think about it – we weren&#8217;t standing up to Big Biz by turning on each other. No, we were hurting each other while the viscious power-mongering job kills LAUGH at us from their ritzy penthouses and vacation homes!!</p>
<p>Why don&#8217;t we stop *playing into the hands of the bad guys here!!* How about we instead turn that fear and anger on the greedy pigs who caused our heartache in the first place?! Don&#8217;t go do anything stupid. Do mourn all the pain and suffering those greedy pigs put us all through. Heal so they have no more power over us. Then&#8230;</p>
<p>Stop buying everything possible from any company that is *not* scrupulously ethical and honorable. Definitely stop shopping at evil WalMart which does NOT give a damm about any of us, only about every last dollar it can extract from us. Buy LOCAL from people you know. Buy organic so you don&#8217;t support evil monsanto and the other massive agri-cons. </p>
<p>If you really want to fight back against the greedy power-mongers who have been callously destabilizing American society for over 20 years now, the answer is simple. Don&#8217;t support them at all. Don&#8217;t ignorantly support them through their subsidiaries &#8211; Clorox bought Burt&#8217;s Bees – only buy from Burt&#8217;s Bees if you really love Clorox. Instead of continuing to blindly and stupidly turn on each other, how about we stop playing Big Biz&#8217; games and instead start having as absolute little to do with them as we possibly can. </p>
<p>What would be great is if we could contribute what we know about various companies to one reputable website. Liars would be permanently banned from that website. The rest of us could contribute what we know about every company so we can start putting our money into companies that are seriously cool. The &#8221;bad&#8221; companies would have to play by our rules if they wanted our money. Lol, if we got enough people on board, the &#8221;bad&#8221; companies might begin to settle down. </p>
<p>I think teh internets could become a lot friendlier once we stop letting the nasty mega-corps have power over us. Whatdya think? Anyone else with me on this? ☺</p>
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		<title>By: Hanging with the new flesh</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-13492</link>
		<dc:creator>Hanging with the new flesh</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Sep 2009 06:42:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] realize we’ve gone the whole nine emotional yards. Jason Calicanis, in a January 28h post on his blog, refers to Tanya Corrin as “the love of his [Harris’s] life.” He was there. I wasn&#8217;t. [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] realize we’ve gone the whole nine emotional yards. Jason Calicanis, in a January 28h post on his blog, refers to Tanya Corrin as “the love of his [Harris’s] life.” He was there. I wasn&#8217;t. [...]</p>
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		<title>By: A discussion about Internet Anonymity. &#124; James [ HATCHideas ]</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-13487</link>
		<dc:creator>A discussion about Internet Anonymity. &#124; James [ HATCHideas ]</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:22:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] about the transition of the real world into the anonymous world of the internet, and the reverse. Jason Calacanis, Michael Arrington, and Nigel Powell, all make comment about some disturbing trends in [...]</description>
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		<title>By: psudomorph</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-13318</link>
		<dc:creator>psudomorph</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2009 20:12:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Does anybody read these? I don’t care. I feel like I need to say something, if someone hears it, all the better.

It really scares me that people consider the death of anonymity to be an enlightened solution.
I have aspergers, real aspergers, (I&#039;m not complaining about your use of the word, it is perfectly accurate for what you are describing) and anonymous communication is the only way I *can* communicate. The only time I can really be myself is when I am behind a pseudonym, because communicating with people is a painful and uncertain process, and the pseudonym insulates me from that pain. The thing is that psychological attacks are not unique to the internet, they occur in real life too (although maybe not as much towards “normal” people), and if I’m going to be attacked, a pseudonym provides the best possible protection.

I just want to let you know (in the million to one chance you read this) that there are a few human beings who would be hurt by your solution just as much as normal people are hurt by the problem.
When people attack and kill one of my online identities (as has happened once or twice), I can try again in my next incarnation, and maybe be a better person. But if the law decides to kill off *all* my identities and leave me naked before the cruel throngs of humanity? Then that’s the last you will ever hear from the *real* me. 

Maybe it’s worth it, maybe some of us have to die in order to save the majority. Maybe I’m being selfish (It’s hard for me to tell). Just, when you have your empathy-filled utopia, remember that not everyone was able to join you.

If you need me, I’ll be cowering inside the mute weirdo over in the corner. Don’t expect a response.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Does anybody read these? I don’t care. I feel like I need to say something, if someone hears it, all the better.</p>
<p>It really scares me that people consider the death of anonymity to be an enlightened solution.<br />
I have aspergers, real aspergers, (I&#8217;m not complaining about your use of the word, it is perfectly accurate for what you are describing) and anonymous communication is the only way I *can* communicate. The only time I can really be myself is when I am behind a pseudonym, because communicating with people is a painful and uncertain process, and the pseudonym insulates me from that pain. The thing is that psychological attacks are not unique to the internet, they occur in real life too (although maybe not as much towards “normal” people), and if I’m going to be attacked, a pseudonym provides the best possible protection.</p>
<p>I just want to let you know (in the million to one chance you read this) that there are a few human beings who would be hurt by your solution just as much as normal people are hurt by the problem.<br />
When people attack and kill one of my online identities (as has happened once or twice), I can try again in my next incarnation, and maybe be a better person. But if the law decides to kill off *all* my identities and leave me naked before the cruel throngs of humanity? Then that’s the last you will ever hear from the *real* me. </p>
<p>Maybe it’s worth it, maybe some of us have to die in order to save the majority. Maybe I’m being selfish (It’s hard for me to tell). Just, when you have your empathy-filled utopia, remember that not everyone was able to join you.</p>
<p>If you need me, I’ll be cowering inside the mute weirdo over in the corner. Don’t expect a response.</p>
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		<title>By: AWV</title>
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		<dc:creator>AWV</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:13:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>*I mean, other people assume that Asperger&#039;s means &quot;unstable or vicious,&quot; nott hat real Asperger&#039;s people appear that way.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>*I mean, other people assume that Asperger&#8217;s means &#8220;unstable or vicious,&#8221; nott hat real Asperger&#8217;s people appear that way.</p>
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		<title>By: AWV</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-13010</link>
		<dc:creator>AWV</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:11:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>admittedly I haven&#039;t read your entire piece, just about the first half. But I&#039;m just what you expected--a person with Asperger&#039;s complaining!

You may not mean any harm but you obviously don&#039;t know anything about Asperger&#039;s and it is kind of rude of you to try to make your observations more interesting by name-dropping a condition you haven&#039;t had much experience with. A person who is an asshole on the Internet is not comparable with a person who has AS, because people with AS are not assholes any more than anyone else is. I&#039;m not unaware that other people are human and I&#039;m not mean to other people; I just have trouble knowing how other people might be feeling, and have trouble knowing the right things to say and do. That doesn&#039;t mean I thoughtlessly insult everyone all the time.

I do think it is a problem how hateful people can be on the Internet, but please refrain from equating hatefulness with Asperger&#039;s. It might make your post sound a little cooler, but this kind of offhand insulting of people with Asperger&#039;s makes it hard for real AS people to disclose their diagnosis, because other people think we are unstable or vicious.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>admittedly I haven&#8217;t read your entire piece, just about the first half. But I&#8217;m just what you expected&#8211;a person with Asperger&#8217;s complaining!</p>
<p>You may not mean any harm but you obviously don&#8217;t know anything about Asperger&#8217;s and it is kind of rude of you to try to make your observations more interesting by name-dropping a condition you haven&#8217;t had much experience with. A person who is an asshole on the Internet is not comparable with a person who has AS, because people with AS are not assholes any more than anyone else is. I&#8217;m not unaware that other people are human and I&#8217;m not mean to other people; I just have trouble knowing how other people might be feeling, and have trouble knowing the right things to say and do. That doesn&#8217;t mean I thoughtlessly insult everyone all the time.</p>
<p>I do think it is a problem how hateful people can be on the Internet, but please refrain from equating hatefulness with Asperger&#8217;s. It might make your post sound a little cooler, but this kind of offhand insulting of people with Asperger&#8217;s makes it hard for real AS people to disclose their diagnosis, because other people think we are unstable or vicious.</p>
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		<title>By: We Live in Public&#160;/&#160; Reclaim the Generation</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-12076</link>
		<dc:creator>We Live in Public&#160;/&#160; Reclaim the Generation</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Aug 2009 14:07:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] about today. If you&#8217;d like to read the article in it&#8217;s entirety, it has been reposted to his blog. All the words in quotes are Jason&#8217;s. Some emphasis added (bolded [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] about today. If you&#8217;d like to read the article in it&#8217;s entirety, it has been reposted to his blog. All the words in quotes are Jason&#8217;s. Some emphasis added (bolded [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Thoughts on We Live in Public and crisis of self &#124; Betwixt and Between</title>
		<link>http://calacanis.com/2009/01/29/we-live-in-public-and-the-end-of-empathy/#comment-11757</link>
		<dc:creator>Thoughts on We Live in Public and crisis of self &#124; Betwixt and Between</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:45:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] by Josh Harris called We Live in Public.  According to Jason Calacanis, who wrote an excellent email-turned-blog-post about the documentary&#8217;s subject matter, &#8220;It’s a cautionary tale about the [...]</description>
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